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Effects of Abuse on Men

Well, as with the AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) I could post 20 questions here and you could, and Probably would answer yes to at least 15 of them.
The first question should be....Have you ever had inappropriate sexual contact with a older male or female in you life?...... For a lot of us it is that simple, but for some survivors it is not.
Many of us remember the abuse, and feel that we have dealt with it because we have pushed it to the back of our minds, and we "don't think about it any more"  (Wrong)

Then there are those of us that don't remember the abuse at all, and suffer from what is termed "Dissociative Identity Disorder" or DID. This would be what they called Multiple personality Disorder in the old days, But before you run of screaming, it is not that bad.

What has happened is that the abuse was so bad, that the person forms a different personality to deal with that pain, and the you that walks talks and functions daily, does not remember the abuse.
So the question remains, how do I know if I was abused and if the abuse affects me in my day to day living.

Now come the questions:
If you have suffered CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) in your past then you will display one or more of the following (And this list is by no means comprehensive)
* Do you drink excessive alcohol or are you an alcoholic?
* Do you abuse any other substances Marijuana, Coke, Tik, Psychological prescription drugs.?
* Do you abuse food and have become obese?
* Do you lack self confidence?
* Do you lack long term friendships?
* Do hate authoritarian figures?
* Do you suffer from sexual addictions?
* Do you abuse Porn?
* Do you Masturbate excessively?
* Are you married but feel the need to sleep with other men?
* Do you have extramarital affairs with either men or woman or both?
* Do have doubts about your sexuality?
* Are you a compulsive over worker?
* Are you a compulsive gambler?
* Are you a compulsive shopper?
* Are you a compulsive exerciser, or Gym Bunny?
* Are you extremely Homophobic?
* And do you suffer from extreme Rage and Violence?

The above are a few questions, and if you know of CSA in your past, then you will know, and these questions will provide confirmation to the question that you are asking.

Dont let CSA affect your life any more than it already has.  We have a saying, Dont let the perpetrator control your life for one more day.  Take your life back today.

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4 comments:

MatrixMen said...

CSA affected my life. I didn't realize it but, for years and years I drank to much, I treated my wife badly, I Had a terrible desire for sex, in other words I didn't really want it. I was always angry, I mean I would shout at the dogs, my daughter, I was pissed of at the world. I would rather watch Porn than be with my wife. I don't know how she put up with my crap.

It was only last year in April, when I watched an Oprah show, that I finally put it all together. I finally realized that CSA had caused tons of problems in my life.

So this is my goal, to get my story out to the men of South Africa, So that hopefully by hearing me tell my story, they will know that they are not alone, that this happens to lots of men.

Don,t let this hurt you and your loved ones anymore. Stop the cycle of abuse.

Martin

Vesta Duvall said...

Children who experienced CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) are vulnerable to having a negative outlook on life. Well, we cannot blame them for what they are now after that life-altering incident. But with the help of psychological treatment, it is possible that their view in life will be changed for good.

Colla said...

Thanks for sharing your story Martin.

Kind regards
Colin

Colla said...

Thanks for sharing your story Martin.

Kind regards
Colin