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5 January 2015

Our efforts to raise awareness.

SABC Interview May 2017
Video


Interview about Parktown Boys incident

Times Live Interview

Online interview

The awesome interview on Cliff Central radio 
Had an awesome time at Cliff Central this afternoon being interviewed by Gary Hertzberg and Kate.  Thanks for taking the time to find out more about the effects of Sexual abuse on men when we get older. 


This is where we will post TV interviews, newspaper clips and radio interviews

Our interview on Morning live was a great success, I hope that the producers will see fit to continue raising awareness about the issues surrounding Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse


I did not expect to have to fight about the issues with the Chairperson of the Gender commission, but the truth is that there are NO facilities for male survivors in South Africa.  Yes there are some programs available for men raped in prison, I dont deny that, but not for the 2,3 Million Adult Male survivors of sexual abuse in South Africa.
Instead of arguing, lets take hands and work towards a program assisting male Survivors.

Interview for the Toronto Star
Toronto Star

EWN interview
EWN

Interview with IOL/ The Star
IOL

The EP HErald

The Sunday Times article


8 January 2013

Welcome to MatrixMen South Africa

If you Are struggling to cope 
Call Us on 081 430 4445

Why MatrixMen
MatrixMen is a group of male survivors of sexual abuse and sexual assault.  It was started by a survivor of sexual abuse, to help men recover from their painful pasts.  When our  founder started his healing, there was absolutely no help for male survivors in South Africa, he Eventually found one therapist in Cape Town that specializes in Sexually abused Men, but it was a bit far to travel from Johannesburg.  So it became a passion of his, to let no man endure what he had had to endure alone.

The effects of sexual abuse and sexual assault on a man's psyche are vast and varied, and  it is only through good therapy and group sessions that a survivor can attain real healing.  It has been proven that the Group dynamic with peers, coupled with a therapist that understands CSA, is the best form of treatment.

MEN ARE AFRAID TO SEEK HELP
Due to social pressures, and the Myths that surround Sexually abused men, Men are reluctant and embarrassed to seek help.  There are men that have been in therapy for years and have still never told their therapists that they were abused.  This shows you the deep level of shame attached to being a survivor of Sexual Abuse

The effects of abuse on Men 
Most men don't realize the impact that abuse has on their lives, and it is only through discussing it with other survivors that they begin to understand what the impact and effects are on their lives.
One of our members said it this way "At least when I talk with you guys, I realize that I am sane"
When a survivor talks to others that were abused, and have suffered through the same pains as you have, then he begins to see that he is normal, that his life is not confusing and scary, and above all that he is not alone.  The feeling of being the only one is probably one of the most debilitating of all.

Some of the common Effects of abuse
A lot of survivors suffer from one or more of the following

  • Alcoholism
  • Drug addiction
  • Sex Addiction
  • Porn Addiction
  • Sexual identity issues (Sexual Confusion)
  • Overeating (Obesity)
  • Bi Polar
  • P.T.S.D. (Post traumatic stress disorders)
  • Multiple personality disorders
  • Self mutilation (Cutting)
  • Low self esteem
  • Suicidal tendencies and thoughts.
  • Depression
These are a few of the issues experienced by survivors, but by no means all of the issues.  Certain early onset  heart problems have been attributed to CSA (Childhood sexual abuse).

Truth is that there are so many things that CSA impacts in a survivors life, let alone those men that are married and have children.

Read through the pages on this blog and see if any of this is similar to what you are experiencing in your life.

THE BIGGEST FEAR THAT MOST SURVIVORS HAVE, IS THE  FEAR OF BEING FOUND OUT.
Don't let this stop you from seeking healing, believe us, there is nothing that you have been through that we haven't heard before, so don't let your fears stand in the way of your healing and future happiness.

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